It has been proved that those who abuse have themselves been abused.
If the young (even babies) have been sexually abused then this is normal. Even mothers and grandparents are involved, not just fathers.
We send out children to excellent boarding schools where they may be abused sexually or physically. Not many can face telling anyone about it.
It has nothing to do with failure to get sexual satisfaction in marriage. If it was, why do young children abuse other children?
Until we understand the abuser, believe and give love to the abused, the vicious circle will not be broken.
A baby is born pure, innocent, helpless and untouched. What happens after is what it learns from us. They know nothing we feed everything into them just as information into a computer.
An excellent book Breaking Down the Wall of Silence by Alice Miller opened my eyes for the abused and the abuser. I wish all could read it, Andrew Stopford's letter amazed me. The Church has swept the problem along with physical abuse of children under the carpet for years. Priests and religious have beaten and abused the young under the guise of discipline as many of us know. We have a law now that prohibits physical abuse.
Margaret KeauMing Frinton-on-Sea